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Post by sue13 on Jul 5, 2017 23:38:04 GMT
Well people I have been in a "relationship" for 6 months now having know the gentleman for nearly 4 years and honestly I can say that singledom is under rated.I have got very used to not have to deal with another persons issues...my children and family are an exception as most parents would know...but someone who has spent the majority of their life in an unknown place, well not really he has lived in a small farming community all of his life along with his numerous siblings and cousins who make up the population, so much in fact that first cousins marry...never knew it was legal, I have even more concerns about it from a moral/biological stand point...anyway i really think that being single is a bonus but you cant shut the gate after the horse has bolted...we have a very good friendship underlying everything but there has been hiccups...he is a kind man and as most of you know he has blood cancer which is not a huge issue for me now as we attend the oncology visits together so I know exactly what the status quo is...it is being left in the dark that causes my anxiety.Anyway any of you mourning the fact you are single...life gives you lemons what ever your circumastances and it is up to us to make lemonade.perhaps an additional factor is it is a long distance relationship, by that I mean a 2 hour drive between our homes.I have bought a lovely little car and my friend pays for fuel for me to attend functions with him...and feeds me lol
I feel I have a trifecta going at the moment.
Young daughter has been caring for her friend who she had to place in a hospice nearly a month ago and the lady is clinging precariously to life....of course young daughter is young, 24 and what a huge loss, she is living in the house having adopted all of her friends pets and only those that know that empty feeling will understand how profound it is.
My brotherinlaw has had a bilateral lung transplant 4 weeks ago and has lost lung function so is back i the transplant ward...1000 miles from here as that is where they do this huge procedure....I have grave concerns for his welfare as where do they go if these lungs are rejected.
Then my special friend is dealing with blood cancer.
The childrens father is having a knee put into his mangled leg on Friday but I couldnt care less about that except for the childrens sake...I hope he pulls through, I know that might sound callous I have absolutely no compassion for the man, I wont even call him a snake as I probably have more compassion for a creature that does not plan to do harm and lacks the cognition to understand the pain they cause others...no he calculates every move...except his fall from 20 foot above ground level.
I am going to the ocean on the weekend and can't wait and then I will have mjy granddaughters to look after next week as eldest daughter has just graduated from nursing and is working and young son has secured a traineeship[ in the beautiful Barossa Valley doing IT that is his passion.
Hope you are all well.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 6, 2017 1:49:35 GMT
Is he working in the wine-making (Barossa Valley) industry then? Maybe you can slide into some discount action? 
Your daughter's friend is lucky to have the relationship. It's very sad to lose relatively young people. Will she adopt the pets?
You seem to be handling the milieu with typical aplomb. Have a good time at the Ocean with the grandkids. Ours are acting like otters in our pool.
 This guy's my favorite.
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Post by sue13 on Jul 7, 2017 20:35:31 GMT
Hi keith and David,
Sandra passed away Thursday, young daughter sent us a text that she will be going AWOL for a few days and not to worry.
I decided against going away for the weekend as I need to be close should anyone need muffins or mornay, comfort foods here...it is winter and that is what mums make.I think the thing I have learnt is to respect my daughter wishes, all I want to do is make it better but I can't but what I can do is respect her grief, her siblings are being stoic for her sake and I am so glad she has them, she is more likely to text them and not worry me.Eldest daughter just graduated from nursing and they are bomb proof...unlike me...
Yes my son is working in the valley and I have the joy of picking him up every day and making the short trip up the road but it is so beautiful...I sit and wait outside of this incredible building for him and watch the clouds and the birds and the gardens they have,well every day it seems they have grown inches, goodness knows what they are using in the soil...maybe guests who don't pay.I have a new little car that I just love and it is really fun to drive, it is the first car I have picked out and bought in 30 years, we had 4wds and big cars as hubby liked them and they were practical on the farm but this little car, my son just fits in, his head hits the roof, he is a big farm lad in stature, is a pocket rocket and I can afford to go places in it.
My son is an absolute tea totaller and although there is a winery attached to the restaurant and resort the shiraz starts at $83 a bottle....lol..I am sure he would get staff discount but he hates me drinking wine because of my medicatiion and the fact his father demonized it so their stash is safe with him...here we can buy excellent local "clean skins" (unlabelled) wine for $5 a bottle...it may not be the pick of the crop but hell it is good wine and in a bottle not a cardboard box.
Yes David...I think the best relationship I have is with my pdoc, it has grown over 12 years and is a safe relationship as he is gay so we can be the opposite sex but best friends if that makes any sense...after my disastrous marriage I am a bit over men...sorry Keith...I think you copped some of that recently from me...but pdoc is family to me...and yes I am relishing my independence.My friend was upset I couldnt make it on the weekend but it is priorities..there have been a few issues and that has put him down the list somewhat...lol
I hope your weekend is good.x
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Post by Hercules on Jul 9, 2017 4:11:09 GMT
Hi keith and David, Sandra passed away Thursday, young daughter sent us a text that she will be going AWOL for a few days and not to worry. I decided against going away for the weekend as I need to be close should anyone need muffins or mornay, comfort foods here...it is winter and that is what mums make.I think the thing I have learnt is to respect my daughter wishes, all I want to do is make it better but I can't but what I can do is respect her grief, her siblings are being stoic for her sake and I am so glad she has them, she is more likely to text them and not worry me.Eldest daughter just graduated from nursing and they are bomb proof...unlike me... Yes my son is working in the valley and I have the joy of picking him up every day and making the short trip up the road but it is so beautiful...I sit and wait outside of this incredible building for him and watch the clouds and the birds and the gardens they have,well every day it seems they have grown inches, goodness knows what they are using in the soil...maybe guests who don't pay.I have a new little car that I just love and it is really fun to drive, it is the first car I have picked out and bought in 30 years, we had 4wds and big cars as hubby liked them and they were practical on the farm but this little car, my son just fits in, his head hits the roof, he is a big farm lad in stature, is a pocket rocket and I can afford to go places in it. My son is an absolute tea totaller and although there is a winery attached to the restaurant and resort the shiraz starts at $83 a bottle....lol..I am sure he would get staff discount but he hates me drinking wine because of my medicatiion and the fact his father demonized it so their stash is safe with him...here we can buy excellent local "clean skins" (unlabelled) wine for $5 a bottle...it may not be the pick of the crop but hell it is good wine and in a bottle not a cardboard box. Yes David...I think the best relationship I have is with my pdoc, it has grown over 12 years and is a safe relationship as he is gay so we can be the opposite sex but best friends if that makes any sense...after my disastrous marriage I am a bit over men...sorry Keith...I think you copped some of that recently from me...but pdoc is family to me...and yes I am relishing my independence.My friend was upset I couldnt make it on the weekend but it is priorities..there have been a few issues and that has put him down the list somewhat...lol I hope your weekend is good.x It warms my heart to hear your updates, I regard you as being one of my online friends if you are comfortable with that label. |
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Post by jodartha on Jul 15, 2017 13:13:15 GMT
Hello dear sue. Gosh it is so nice to "hear" your voice. And your thoughts as I have always adored it.
Sorry you have some sadness in your life and family. It sounds like you see the bright side of it all which always has been a comfort to the cynical side to me.
I hope to catch up soon. You always make me smile.
Jody
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Post by David on Dec 22, 2017 22:30:06 GMT
All the best for Christmas and beyond Sue
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Post by David on Dec 24, 2017 21:10:06 GMT
Not seeing you around for a while it would be helpful
to know you are OK Sue....
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Post by sue13 on Dec 27, 2017 5:20:16 GMT
Hi David
Tried going back to uni but not up to it.
I spent 3 weeks in hospital in August I now disassociate...no memory of what I do, 4 car accidents in one day.
My meds seem to be doing the job.
Hope you are all well.
xxxxx
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Post by Hercules on Dec 28, 2017 8:33:02 GMT
Hi David Tried going back to uni but not up to it. I spent 3 weeks in hospital in August I now disassociate...no memory of what I do, 4 car accidents in one day. My meds seem to be doing the job. Hope you are all well. xxxxx Sue Good to hear from you. Did Chelle have her surgery in the end? |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 28, 2017 12:04:14 GMT
Sorry to hear of your decline Sue. One of my sons experimented with drugs which caused disassociation...it was a bad time around here then. I wish there were something to be done...you're not "experimenting". I hope you can have a good Christmas in spite of life's unfairness. Miss your presence.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 29, 2017 6:36:43 GMT
lets see my last relationship ?50?60?years ago?hey im single!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 29, 2017 6:40:40 GMT
Is he working in the wine-making (Barossa Valley) industry then? Maybe you can slide into some discount action?
Your daughter's friend is lucky to have the relationship. It's very sad to lose relatively young people. Will she adopt the pets?
You seem to be handling the milieu with typical aplomb. Have a good time at the Ocean with the grandkids. Ours are acting like otters in our pool.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 30, 2017 1:13:23 GMT
This is "David"...he's my youngest progeny.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 30, 2017 3:08:37 GMT
This is "David"...he's my youngest progeny. i didnt know you had kids-thats great |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 30, 2017 10:20:31 GMT
I have 30 year old twin sons who produced three grandchildren, one of whom is David.
Thank you Paul.
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