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Post by sue13 on Sept 21, 2017 18:10:32 GMT
Hi David, Thank you for your thoughts, I have not been well, youngest daughter was invited to a family get together over a week ago and has not replied so her elest sister contacted her and she has blocked her. I did not see my daughter for mothers day or her birthday, she has no contact with her sublings, it breaks my heart and yes Wednesday I had a melt down I could not work out if it was 4 am or 4 pm then I thought the next day was Friday...it affects me that much. This is the young daughter who would like me in a group home so they could sell my place, she has just inherited a house and life insurance policy, easy money if you are as cold as ice.So it has been challenging and now I am not allowed to drive at night...so I am fighting to get back on top of things David, I love my little house where I can have my animals...but it is a huge challenge.Thank you for asking I hope you are well.See pdoc today.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 21, 2017 21:09:36 GMT
get well
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Post by sue13 on Sept 22, 2017 21:27:08 GMT
Thanks warpigs...my pdoc is unavailable for 2 weeks as he is having surgery, he just wants me to potter around at home and not stress about anything so I will do that....otherwise I am back in hospital. Fortunately the weather is warming up so I need to stay well. I hope you are ok.x
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Post by David on Sept 23, 2017 18:18:32 GMT
Hi David, Thank you for your thoughts, I have not been well, youngest daughter was invited to a family get together over a week ago and has not replied so her elest sister contacted her and she has blocked her. I did not see my daughter for mothers day or her birthday, she has no contact with her sublings, it breaks my heart and yes Wednesday I had a melt down I could not work out if it was 4 am or 4 pm then I thought the next day was Friday...it affects me that much. This is the young daughter who would like me in a group home so they could sell my place, she has just inherited a house and life insurance policy, easy money if you are as cold as ice.So it has been challenging and now I am not allowed to drive at night...so I am fighting to get back on top of things David, I love my little house where I can have my animals...but it is a huge challenge.Thank you for asking I hope you are well.See pdoc today. Hi Sue
I find it very sad when siblings fall out... hopefully this is just a blip in their relationship and nothing more than that. Further to what you share there is no way I would consider you were ' ripe' for a sheltered housing environment. I think that such a call would lead to a premature demise for you big time. How did you Pdoc appointment go ? |
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Post by David on Sept 23, 2017 18:33:05 GMT
Forgive me if I am wrong but I don't seem to noticed you mention your Son Michael in recent times.
Here's wishing him good health and prosperity at all times... if that be at all possible!
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Post by David on Sept 23, 2017 18:56:09 GMT
Getting around to Jeff...
are you both still in friendship mode?
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Post by David on Sept 23, 2017 19:30:40 GMT
If I have over stretched my inquiries by mentioning Jeff..
Please just ignore same Sue.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 24, 2017 3:47:44 GMT
Don't let them take your home Sue. Your family's concerns about your welfare can coat you your independence. Perhaps you can advertise for someone who'd be willing to serve as an assistant to an elderly lady in exchange for rent. This might allay your people's worries and permit you to keep your independence. Just a thought.
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Post by sue13 on Sept 24, 2017 21:32:57 GMT
Hi David , Keith and everyone,
Young daughter has had to bury her house mate last month so I must expect she is off the radar, she has inherited a house and a huge sum of money but no we are being completely divorced from her but what can you do except acknowledge the pain it is causing and try and deal with it without hitting the benzodiazapines too hard and try just try to keep going.
Keith I love my little house and I really think it is a safe space something I never had on the farm I just have to get wiser with my pennys and not mention medical events to the kids, I am too young to be instituionalized although they are taking my drivers licence off me one bit at a time.I am now restricted to wearing glasses and no night driving.
Michael is a solid kid David, I suppose that is why he gets little mention, he works in the valley in IT and his father takes him there in the morning and I collect him at night and we get tochat for about 40 minutes and I love it, on the way home he likes to go through McDonalds drivethrough and will buy me a $1 hamburger. He just fits in my little car, he is not roly poly he is one of those tall farm lads, built like a brick " ***** house" is our coloquial term for his size, when I change gears I touch his thigh and he is not sitting in a man pose it is just how much space he takes up.
On the up side I can take Mozart to the beach when ever as the car is light on fuel costs and I love that.
Eldest daughter lets me mind the girls, they love me to bits and as she is a nurse if I am not well I do say abort mission and she always has a back up plan and she appreciates that, I would not compromise their well being for all the tea in China....little kids and animals love me and pdoc says I must focus on the fact that I have 2 biological children, 2 grand children and a son in law who get on with me...as opposed to the one who is breaking my heart at the moment.
As for Jeff...I have removed any label or expectations from our friendship which has upset him but he is a natural born flirt and we catch up for a meal every now and again, I think he regrets his flitatious nature as he still lists himself as in a relationship but me I am single and pdoc thinks that is the only way I will get to live a decent life as I have been to hurt by people and I do get lonely sometimes but Jeff rings numerous times a day...we are good mates but no I need some one who is not horrified by mental health clinics because honestly the hopsital is my home away from home...it is the place where I am normal, where my illness is understood and not judged.
It is coming up to the sad time of the year, the kids will have Christmas with their Dad...I will be 60 next year everyone is having huge family bashes but I think I will just plan a little holiday instead for myself within Australia...nothing flash just some memories. I have been invited to a wedding at Ayers Rock (Uluru) in September but I need to be away on the day.,
Keith with my paranoia I really think I could not handle another person here, my next go to step is moving into a smaller home, although this is tiny compared to the farm house it is a family home with 3 living areas.
I am sad today, depression is bad but I am concerned for pdoc and his surgery, I am hurt because of katie, I really feel I have very little purpose in this life anymore...but you get that...I need to get through 2 weeks without pdoc, he said he will see me when he is out of hospital but I will try to keep to our schedule to give him time to heal.
I hope you are all well.
My joke is...I need to find a psych nurse to share my house but the only one that was interested...well she wasnt my type lol
Cheers
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Post by nadalama on Sept 25, 2017 15:03:58 GMT
Hello Sue, I am sorry to hear the sadness in your post. May I give you an observation? Like you, I have two daughters and a son. (oh, and the brick ****house is well known here, too, perhaps just a slight difference in spelling) My children are now nearly 40, 36, and 33. From the time they were 12 or 13 until they were nearly 30, and perhaps having children accelerated that some, they had much more judgement toward my husband and me as parents. Sometimes we were ok, sometimes not. It was really not so different from when they were little, and would gravitate from one parent to the other; as they go through stages of development it is normal for them to do that.
In a long-winded way what I am trying to share with you is that it has been my experience that our children, and especially our daughters, go through all kinds of upheaval during the years of their lives when it is appropriate for them to separate themselves from us, their mothers. Thankfully, in most cases, that separation does not last. Age brings life experience, exposure to other people's problems in the real world, perhaps the learning of empathy and compassion, and gradually the judgemental nature changes. Your Katie, it sounds like, has been through the wringer lately, what with losing such a close friend, and she very well may be dealing with some emotional trauma that makes it difficult for her to cope with life in general.
I hope all goes well for you, your daughters, Michael, and pdoc. It is wonderful to hear that Michael is adjusting well to "grown up" life. My son has had a tough time with that, so the boys, I worry about them some but am always happy to hear when one sails into adult life with a good head on his shoulders. You, Sue, helped him with that. Just remember that, ok?
Hugs,
Jane
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Post by sue13 on Oct 2, 2017 19:39:42 GMT
Thanks Jane, Yes Michael has landed in a great environment in the valley, it is a beautiful old wine making area, to the south of me there is a huge government housing tract completely different to the valley so he is with good people. I have to plan my time better Jane so I don't feel so lonely...I think that is why I rely on Jeff and he has let me down on a number of occassions so he is not good for my mental health. Yes eldest daughter had her spit with me and stopped me seeing her girls and then bazing they were here visiting and staying for play dates...pdoc said what did you do, he is not allowed to see is grandchildren just pay for their education, I said i don't know but I wont argue with success.It is a chore getting from the beginning to the end of the day Jane, I see pdoc on Friday but I am having to hit the ativan again...not to worry, Michael will be 21 soon and he just fits into my little car, certainly glad I didnt buy a smaller one...lol...he syas he fels like he is on a motor bike but the freedom it gives me is brilliant. I hope you are well friend...we can only go forward.x
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Post by Deleted on Oct 3, 2017 12:06:34 GMT
Yeah...I'm not overly paranoid but I wouldn't want to share my home either.
I guess we should count ourselves lucky...Las Vegas can happen anywhere. I can hardly stomach the news anymore. Whenever I hear Trump's voice I want to puke. God help us.
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Post by David on Oct 31, 2017 5:58:05 GMT
I got to thinking just now
about you current welfare Sue?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2017 19:15:10 GMT
and u think Hillary and Obama were good people?bizarre....what did you think of NATO attacking moromar Qaddafi?
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