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Post by David on Feb 18, 2021 2:16:41 GMT
The brother I never thought I would ever meet...
has just happened several days ago by subscribing
to a site called my heritage, which helps you build a family tree.
We came into personal contact, less than two weeks ago.
He is called Alan. aged 66 and I, now in my 76th year.
but as the saying goes better late than never.
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Post by David on Feb 18, 2021 2:21:59 GMT
Further to my first post, he has been brought up as a youngster
here in the UK and his adoptive family took him to live in Australia
namely Adelaide and then onto New Zealand a place called Napier.
And then back here to Wiltshire concluding in Cornwall.
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Post by David on Feb 18, 2021 2:28:19 GMT
It should go without saying,
but I am going to say it anyway,
I am thrilled by such a find...
What is more, although I suspected
possibly different Fathers but DNA
results have proven we have the same
joint parentage...
which further adds to my delight!
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Post by David on Feb 18, 2021 2:33:50 GMT
PS., As time goes by, as we get to become acquainted further...
I will provide updates, as to further progress or (heaven forbid), the lack of same.
For lets face it, after almost a life time apart, who knows where this will go in terms of compatibility?
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Post by David on Feb 18, 2021 2:45:04 GMT
PPS., Sorry, I am going on a bit, but then i am so excited
and feel the need to off load, and I cannot think of a better
place than our community to do this.
Unlike me he is heterosexual and has a wife and family.
He trained as a carpenter became redundant, got a job
for a undertaker, producing coffins, later retrained as an embalmer,
and concluded before retiring as a fully fledged funeral director.
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Post by David on Feb 18, 2021 2:52:12 GMT
I only hope when we do meet up in person, after this Covid ordeal
He is not carrying a tape measure around his neck ,
looking to come out of retirement as a former undertaker! lol
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Post by David on Feb 18, 2021 3:01:12 GMT
By the way his name is Alan, his wife is called Susan and he has a son named Alex
and they are located in the south west of England and I in the North east.
And we literally only came into contact for the very first time on February 5, 2021
less than three weeks ago as I speak.
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Post by David on Feb 18, 2021 3:13:18 GMT
You may well wonder how that can be...
Brothers not having knowledge of each other
timeline wise.
The simple answer is I, like him were brought up in the care of others,
not our biological parents...
as a result of a dysfunctional family setting, when we were born.
Hence such segregation so early on in our lives...
we never knew of one an others existence at that time
and for many years to come!
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Post by David on Feb 18, 2021 3:42:15 GMT
What further complicated our lives
was the fact our mother never married
and our father who was Danish was a sea farer,
and as a result of his sea missions consolidated
such pregnancies, not once but twice with the
same mother to be.
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Post by Hercules on Feb 18, 2021 4:30:24 GMT
Fantastic news please keep us posted
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Post by David on Feb 20, 2021 0:44:58 GMT
Cheers for such sentiment Hercules.
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Post by David on Feb 23, 2021 1:04:34 GMT
All is going well since are first introduction on February 5th.
We have discussed many things, pertinent to our existence
and the many years we have spent apart.
Although never to together in the first place,
hopefully that makes sense, to some degree in
your understanding of same.
If not, please reply with any question you would like to ask,
if you are interested,
in order to clarify where I am coming from,
in terms of our sixty six years apart.
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Post by David on Feb 23, 2021 1:34:27 GMT
During my seventy five years of life,
I have never went out of my way to be economical
with the truth to anyone, I have interacted with ..
save for when I was a boy, when it was diplomatic
to do so, to spare myself from punishment .
As an adult I began, (over time) to realise such
untruths, were superfluous to the real me, and
abandoned same with equal amounts of caution
and relish, relish won!
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Post by David on Feb 23, 2021 1:43:36 GMT
PS., I have long believed that every one of us,
has a potential dark side...
let us be realistic here, no human being is perfect.
Anyone who thinks differently, with respect consider
such folk as delusional in thought, if not in practise!
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Post by David on Feb 23, 2021 1:52:40 GMT
Hence the reason, I endorse the statement..
'Tell the truth and shame the devil'.
For I maintain the devil is within all of us...
to varying degrees...
Whether, we are reluctant to admit it or not,
is up to the individual to accept or reject.,
hinging on their comfortability with being
truthful or being economical with same,
leading to deceit, in any shape or form.
Which eventually complicates our relationship
with others, friends or foe alike, makes no difference.
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