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Post by Hercules on Oct 28, 2019 6:11:54 GMT
I don't believe in ticking boxes in a dating partner. Just meet someone somewhat compatible and make it work. He or she does not need to mr or missus perfect. There are some deal breakers for me though, and I think they would be the same deal breakers for anyone...
1) can't be selfish
2) can't be immature
3) can't be prejudiced
4) must be virtuous/honest etc
I mean good luck having relationship with a selfish liar...
What say you on this topic?
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Post by flame923 on Oct 30, 2019 4:01:25 GMT
Well, Hercules, I'd say you be pretty hard pressed to find anyone perfect. But, if you did find a Mr. or Miss perfect. I don't think they would be much fun.
Otherwise I agree with your list. For me, I also need someone with: a good smile; a good sense of humor; a good personality;
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Post by David on Oct 30, 2019 4:02:24 GMT
I agree that ticking a box is not the ideal introduction to a prospective partner Hercules
Far to clinical, in my view.
However on the points you do make...
this is something you won't find out on a first or second date.
For it takes time to weigh up, what you like or don't like in a future partnership.
And even then we cannot be sure we have made the right judgement until further down the road.
So please don't make a hasty assessment on a first or second meet up.
For you could be doing, not only yourself, but your potential other a disservice.
Just my opinion as ever!
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Post by David on Oct 30, 2019 4:13:41 GMT
PS., I say clinical for it reminds me of a medical assessment...
and not a possible avenue to romance.
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Post by Hercules on Oct 31, 2019 4:27:00 GMT
Most people know after one or two dates
Each date lasts for 2-3 hours which is longer than a job interview
Do you have chemistry with the person
Go on some dates
See if it works
I was interested in your nice smile comment
I would not have that on my list or a sense of humour
Why do you value a nice smile David?
What if the person was totally gorgeous and had similar world views but had a terrible smile?
Would that ruin things?
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Post by flame923 on Oct 31, 2019 9:55:07 GMT
Did you mean me, Hercules, about the smile and sense of humor comments?
Maybe it’s not so much about having a good or nice smile, as it is about them knowing how to smile, and actually smiling on occasion. Plus, it should not be a evil or creepy smile
Regarding the sense of humor, they say lighter is the best medicine, and I’m not sure what life would be like without it. The ability to see humor in life’s predicaments helps me get through it. I would have a hard time being with someone who never joked around or never laughed at themselves, me, or life. Plus, I am not sure someone will ‘get’ me if they don’t understand humor.
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Post by Hercules on Oct 31, 2019 19:53:06 GMT
Ahh sorry Flame yes I did mean you
Thanks for your answer all of that sounded fair
I have always enjoyed kidding around with you so yes I can se how humour would be important.
I remember when dr long introduced some strange rule regarding if three senior memes banned a post it would be deleted. I became delighted by my powers and went around banning anything slightly untoward over a 24 hour period. This banning spree met with a telling off from david after I banned two of his posts.
You alone saw my side of the comedy.
“You go banning guy” I think was your answer.
Just a warning not to focus on any one thing too much though.
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Post by David on Nov 1, 2019 21:16:13 GMT
I remember when dr long introduced some strange rule regarding if three senior memes banned a post it would be deleted. I became delighted by my powers and went around banning anything slightly untoward over a 24 hour period. This banning spree met with a telling off from david after I banned two of his posts.
Firstly, as you say it took three members to ban a post not you alone and secondly
there was no way anyone such as I or anyone else for that matter would know of such
an action for it
was all done anonymously; therefore I wouldn't have known to call you out.
And thirdly, I never did have any of my posts banned by such a method.
Just putting the record straight, for like you I am a stickler for getting things right.
However, on this occasion, as to what you've placed on record above, is not factual. lol |
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Post by David on Nov 1, 2019 21:25:47 GMT
PS., Your memory recall cannot be that good, for even in this current thread of yours Hercules,
you got what Leigh posted mixed up with what I posted and that was only yesterday. lol
On that basis I prefer to regard your statement involving my name...
more down to' false memory syndrome' as opposed to being 'economical with truth'.
And that's where I will leave it!
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Post by David on Nov 1, 2019 22:37:49 GMT
Now that I hopefully put to bed your misunderstanding as to what actually happened as opposed to what did not...
I trust you get what ever dating strategy you have in mind Hercules...
works well, and that you get what you are looking for, on the prospective romance front.
I say that for anyone looking for a 'mate' deserves to find a mate, far better than single status
I suggest...
unless of course, the single prefers to live solo... then that's fine also.
But from what I know of you , over the last ten years, that appears not to be your desire.
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Post by Hercules on Nov 1, 2019 23:17:33 GMT
Hi David
All Good. My memory, which could be wrong, says that each ban vote was registered against a post so you would have noticed my click.
Also the part about the telling off is wildly embellished. I think you just raised a concern but I thought a telling off sounded better in the retelling.
And yes all of this took place ten years ago so I could have a foggy memory.
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Post by flame923 on Nov 2, 2019 5:14:45 GMT
Oh, haha Hercules! I had forgotten all about that banning thing. Although I don't remember all the details, I do seem to remember some brouhaha about it. Quite a dustup, I believe.
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