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Post by Hercules on Oct 8, 2017 9:45:51 GMT
Note for David - these are to be your own thoughts rather than quotes from the Internet.
Today's thought for the day. I think I won a lottery with my parents. My mother tried hard to educate us from a young age and we were given books to read every month. I read lord of the rings at 12 years old. Which isn't bad going.
My Dad then took over when I was older and guided me through some treacherous years of business while I was still learning the ropes.
Now I somewhat feel like a DH Lawrence figure where I have discarded their role as parents and now I just talk to them. My mother has accepted this but my Father hasn't and tries to coach me all the time instead of talking to me. He will come around eventually. I am taking a break from talking to him as he is becoming irrascible in his old age. But that is ok he has had a good inning and deserves to be how he wants to be.
All for now.
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Post by sue13 on Oct 8, 2017 19:46:11 GMT
My children are taking a break from me too Hercs...and I don't blame them in the least, when I am unwell it is so difficult for them. It is actually beneficial for their mental health to keep their distance and I accept that but hell I miss them.
Will think about something profound to add to this thread for you.
Cheers
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Post by Hercules on Oct 8, 2017 23:26:14 GMT
Just for this thread david You are welcome to post quotes from the internet in your two threads you have maintained in this general discussion forum This thread is meant to be for all to just riff a thought from the top of their head ( that ideally is a pleasant or neutral observation) @sue sorry to hear about your kids. Hopefully that is temporary  |
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Post by Hercules on Oct 11, 2017 4:35:43 GMT
Sounds like a sensible plan to be pursued while the going is good.
Start thinking about whether you want a condo or one story house....
Sounds like the beginning of an adventure
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Post by Sketcher2 on Oct 11, 2017 4:48:51 GMT
I hit the jack pot when I got my mom but my dad is another story. My mom is really caring and giving and supports us in all ways that we need her to.
My dad cheated on my mom when I was 6 years old. Then she forgave him and he came back to the family then cheated on her again. He has been married twice more now from the time they got divorced. He never calls us anymore long distance, and hardly ever initiates emails to me. I have tried my best to forgive him but there is still bitterness from all the lies he's told and the lack of caring for me and my brother on his part.
Overall, I am glad to have my mom although I think she made a mistake by marrying my dad. Since, she was a Christian in her youth and she didn't listen to the advice of the bible that says, we shouldn't be unequally yoked to our spouses. It ruined things for her and us. Plus , my dad was an orphan and the hospital staff found him in the hospital door step when he was a baby. My mom's side of the family doesn't have a history of mental illness or multiple sclerosis so I am pretty sure it came from my dad's side, which isn't his fault but all could have been avoided if my mom married a Christian man instead.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 13, 2017 7:05:19 GMT
Hmm...random thoughts. How might they be different from deliberate and purposeful thoughts?
 In my case, it's more a matter of slowing down the process long enough to isolate any one thought. Wm James describes the difficulty while defining his concept of a stream of consciousness: "“… it is nothing joined; it flows. A ‘river’ or a ‘stream’ is the metaphors by which it is most naturally described. In talking of it hereafter, let’s call it the stream of thought, consciousness, or subjective life.” Trying to take a snapshot within a film can be done but by the time we stop our thought processes to take that mental picture...the moment and the picture are gone. Which brings me to my random thought:
If the present is instantaneous while the past is rigid and the future is in flux...it cannot exist. The infinitely small increment called "now" can never be experienced...it's either passed or not yet here. 
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Post by Hercules on Oct 13, 2017 8:12:05 GMT
You get the award for the most complex thought so far.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2017 18:10:45 GMT
"Although I would prefer not to be inundated with ones thoughts at all times. I wish I could just switch off when overwhelmed by same. lol"
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Post by Hercules on Oct 14, 2017 21:42:36 GMT
The guy on the train has stopped talking to me cold turkey. He sits on the second carriage. I sat next to him a few times and then we started having long chats as he gets off at a station near mine. This continued for a few weeks until he suddenly cut me off. I think he thought I was a con man as he always looked very weary when I asked him personal details and was reluctant to share much information.
I felt quite put out when I sat next to him on Friday and he gave me the cold shoulder.
There is nothing as strange as folk.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 17, 2017 3:26:37 GMT
Adam Vinatieri, the place kicker for the Indianapolis Colts is 44, has 4 Superbowl rings, and very seldom misses. He blew an extra point kick an hour ago and now they are tied at 22. Pressure and nerves can shake the most experienced athlete. I wouldn't want the job. I dislike highly competitive activities. Random thoughts constantly define me...to me.
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Post by sue13 on Oct 17, 2017 3:52:17 GMT
Dear David, My pdoc has recently moved from a triple storey home to a one level home and he feels all the better for it, on the other hand my gentleman friend is 70 and still gets up on his roof to do repairs, he surprised me on the weekend jumping off a ledge at the back of my yard...the same drop I broke my ankle on while negotiating the stairs. I struck out with parents too...both of mine jumped ship and when they were in my life they fed me to the bloody wolves...however I have the opportunity to be a parent to my children now and a better parent now I am medicated, at times I am even quite useful. My daughter had to spend 5 hours with her youngest daughter at the hospital on Sunday so I cared for her other daughter and prepared an evening meal so they could either have it here or take it home. As it was we all ate here together, I felt really good, I never had support raising my children, I think I was overwhelmed. Lucky I had 3 children though, 2 love me unconditionally, the other keeps her distance for the sake of her own mental health. So on a good day I can rationalize that 2 out of 3 aint bad  On a bad day I feel terribly guilty about what a better job I could have done. |
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Post by sue13 on Oct 17, 2017 3:54:47 GMT
I am Nanna have a chat too but living in a country town it is OK, if I am not related to the person we are familiar faces from kindy, school. ballet, church or wherever....and I must admit some days that is all the social interaction I have apart from phone calls or messaging...my gentleman friend rings a few times a day.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 22, 2017 9:16:23 GMT
Catalonia wants independence from Spain. The Kurds want a homeland carved out of Iraq and Syria. South Sudan broke from Sudan and knows no peace.
Instead of overcoming our ethnic bias, we are succumbing to it. Balkanization is the new geopolitical norm. Trump used this fact to gain office. Now, he doesn't have a clue how to deal with it all.
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Post by Hercules on Oct 24, 2017 10:30:47 GMT
I am really struggling with my feelings tonight and anger. It is a side effect of my medication. I get dysfunctionally angry over disputes from 10-15 years ago that flood back into my memory. Tonight was especially bad and I am struggling not to feel arrogant or superior to 80% of the world.
Most people I have met in my life have been immature and self centric.
This is not a healthy thought to think and I don't want to be a person with a stuck up opinion about themselves. That is the word we use in my country. So and so is stuck up.
I want to feel positive about everyone and think that people are fundamentally good. Not fundamentally imbecilic.
I think if I force myself then I am generalising from about 100 people I have met who were rude to suddenly 80% of the world. And I guess that is illogical thinking. There have also been some very nice people if I force myself. My high school teachers hated me for example but they were always professional to me and treated me fairly (I know they hated me as they openly told me they disliked me). Why they would tell a student that I don't know but high school teaches are very forward people. So I guess they were sane. I don't know tonight I have just remembered one foul incident after another.
I think that is the insight though 100 foul people does not equal 80% of the world's population.
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