Post by Hercules on Feb 26, 2018 7:09:51 GMT
Feb 25, 2018 19:57:19 GMT @keith said:
If one word could describe my nature it would be "empathetic". Pisces/Cancer couldn't be anything else. It used to work to my detriment when I actually tried to be a Christian. Loving my enemies is now, beyond my capacity. There was a time when I bought in to the whole thing and living where I did, the experience almost destroyed me. Nonetheless, perhaps because I encountered such conflict and aggression early on, I eventually came to love all people of decent character. Being sad (warranted or not) can be almost positive...a little melancholy can produce deep reflection and self awareness. I didn't mean to sound condescending or alienated.No not condescending or anything bad about your post. I just felt bad we had made you feel bad through osmosis. I have heard your self analysis before so I was aware you were empathetic through your own self descriptions as well as my own observations.
This is the only post however in your very long posting history where I detected that you might be being overly empathetic and felt that you wouldn't mind me highlighting that to you if I did it in a friendly and nice way.
I have a great deal of problems empathising because people don't react how I would when presented with stimuli.
I often see the good in situations while your average punter can plot revenge quite easily instead as a reaction.
About 7 years ago I was sent for executive coaching to work on my soft skills. We worked on some empathising techniques which have improved me a great deal.
I said to the coach - "I want to almost tie a piece of string around my finger to remember to predict how the other person will react when I take an action".
The coach responded marvellously and said "Hercules, let the other person be the string, if there is another person involved then just by seeing them in your minds eye let that be your reminder to predict that there will be a reaction, and to then fathom what it might be".
I improved out of sight after that advice.
You wouldn't have needed that coaching as that would have come to you naturally. That is ok though, we all have different talents. Your talents relate to people. Mine relate to discernment.
