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Post by mike412412 on Nov 8, 2021 3:17:06 GMT
My biggest problem is I spend too much time alone. I need to make some friends that I can trust. I've been going to groups/the drop in center. I've had some not so good friends in the past, I have trust issues but I also feel desperate for company sometimes.
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Post by chelle on Nov 9, 2021 4:29:21 GMT
Hi Mike,
I've been fine wrong so much that I've learned to be completely happy alone without friends in my life every day but do I get lonely? Yes sometimes. I do have friends that I rarely see but talk to either on the phone or online. I do live with my husband as well. So I do have someone here.
As for the very few friend I do have we rarely get together do to my work schedule. I have found that I am happy to go shopping alone and even go out to lunch alone but everyone is not quite like me. God is my best friend and is always there. He has done some quite amazing things for me in my life to which is why my faith is so strong.
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Post by mike412412 on Nov 11, 2021 4:56:41 GMT
I think maybe as a nurse your around so many people all the time you don't get so lonely. Even when I was in the hospital I was around so many people, it's just the thought I'd probably never see any of them again being in a different city than I live.
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Post by David on Nov 11, 2021 5:25:38 GMT
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Post by chelle on Nov 12, 2021 2:14:48 GMT
I think maybe as a nurse your around so many people all the time you don't get so lonely. Even when I was in the hospital I was around so many people, it's just the thought I'd probably never see any of them again being in a different city than I live. I'm not a nurse Mike I'm a direct support staff for developmentally disabled i do give medications but the main part of my job is to support the individuals to live as much as possible like we do and to help and monitor when needed. So that they can be independent as much as we possible It so happens if they get sick, the yes I care for them and take them t doctor appointments. I used to work in a group home where we had may individuals to support but now I work in clients homes. Sometimes it will be 2 roommates and sometimes just one to a home. I do love thier company. It can be frustrating at times when behaviors arise. The only other interaction I may get is a co worker passing through. I do talk on the phone with friends on my days off and hubby is here although we both like our space and downtime. I'm really rooting for you to join something. Either a church, AA, some kind of hobby or class to take up. You will get out of the house and definitely meet friends. Of course we are all here for you as well Mike. Sometimes we get busy and disappear from time to time but we always come back to check in. |
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Post by David on Nov 16, 2021 3:07:13 GMT
I agree with what you have shared with us here Michelle and in particular Mike.
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Post by David on Nov 16, 2021 3:12:37 GMT
PS.,For giving advice to anyone is one thing..
making a suggestion is far more potent I think..
for it implies less of an instruction and more of
this is my opinion making such interaction more friendly.
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Post by David on Nov 21, 2021 22:24:24 GMT
I Hope is your feeling of loneliness currently Mike?
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Post by David on Nov 21, 2021 22:45:53 GMT
PS., I admire you for sharing that with us Mike.
I think are many folk out there, in the wider world that would
not confess to such a problem, because of the implication
that others might think that , that was something of a negative
trait, whereby we only have ourselves to blame, due to some
sort if inadequacy in our personal make up.
The fact is no one is immune from such feeling, for it affects
everyone to a greater or lesser degree throughout our lives.
It is how we deal with it, that make all the difference...
when it comes to combatting the sense of hopelessness
it creates in our emotional well being.
The good news is it does not usually last long term.
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Post by David on Nov 21, 2021 23:05:32 GMT
I went through a similar episode when my partner of seventeen years died suddenly.
I locked myself away, instead of opening myself, to others.
As a result the loneliness became more of a heartache than the initial grief.
This in turn made me succumb to drink and drugs, such action compounded
the problem even further.
Concluding in a period of hospitalisation.
The difference is from what I gather from you, is you were discharged without
an adequate network of support when you went home.
Correct me if I have such an understanding wrong Mike.
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Post by David on Nov 26, 2021 16:22:15 GMT
Not having seen you post in a while I got to thinking if you are all right in spite of the loneliness you are experiencing Mike.
Affinity, communication and empathy for the human condition is what binds us and keeps the soul in a state of wonderment
of what might be around the For nothing is constant in this life for we keep on evolving throughout our life span.
Remember that and it is just possible your state of aloneness will become less problematic over time...
save for being locked up in solitary confinement.
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Post by mike412412 on Nov 28, 2021 0:57:59 GMT
I guess I'm alright considering the circumstances David. I've got a tough time ahead of me to get through. I have to try to take things one day at a time.
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Post by David on Nov 28, 2021 17:11:01 GMT
Glad you are Okay Mike!
Perhaps it is true that we do not really exist until there is someone there to see us existing,
we cannot properly speak until there is someone who can understand what we are saying in essence,
we are not wholly alive until we are loved.
Just continuing to share my thoughts as ever on the subject of loneliness.
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Post by David on Dec 5, 2021 22:08:42 GMT
If my memory serves me right I think it is about now that your 'misdemeanour' review is about to take place
and if successful you home curfew lifted, giving you the freedom you yearn for...
and by definition providing with a way out of your loneliness period through forced isolation.
Hopefully, I have got that right from what you have shared overtime Mike?
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Post by David on Dec 12, 2021 2:07:21 GMT
Hoping by now your home curfew has now been lifted and you now have full mobility of move Mike!
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